SportsLeader is a virtue-based mentoring and motivation program for coaches. This blog shares stories from coaches all over the country transforming lives. For more information contact Lou Judd - ljudd@sportsleader.org

Thursday, August 9, 2012

MY CEREBRAL PALSY IS NOT A DISABILITY IT IS A GIFT


As I had mentioned in a previous email, I have had the opportunity to meet some amazing people in coaching and sports. Sam Becker is one of them.

He has agreed, with his parents permission, to blog with us about his experiences of life as a manager, a sports fan, a young person taking part in the SportsLeader program, what it is like having a coach as a mentor ...

My hope is that his perspective inspires you and your coaching staff, to embrace this mission of transforming lives with greater passion and enthusiasm.

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Hello everyone my name is Sam Becker. I am a 17 year old senior at Archbishop McNicholas high school in Cincinnati, Ohio where I work as the football and basketball manager. My life hasn’t been easy growing up with Cerebral Palsy; through all the trials and tribulations, ups and downs, I have learned two things.

• God has a plan for me
• My Cerebral Palsy is not a disability it is a gift given to me to accomplish great things.

I was enjoying another day at afternoon practice last Friday when I met Mr. Lou Judd. After talking with him for a few minutes in between my water shifts, Lou asked me to write and try to inspire some of his readers. This was an offer I couldn’t refuse. Before I go any further, I would like to thank Lou for giving me this opportunity and to tell you how much I am honored to have a chance to share my story with you, I am truly bless.

I was born 10 weeks before my due date in Lynbrook, New York, a year and a half later my family was devastated to learn that I was diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy. The doctors seemed to have predicted many things that day. A few them were: I would never be able to walk , if I could walk, I would either need a cane, crutches, or walker, By the time I would be leaving for college I would need a wheel chair or scooter because my body wouldn’t be able to make it across campus.

You better believe that every time I step on an empty court at 5:30 A.M. to play basketball or walk into the gym to lift these prognosis’ are on my mind. Not a single one of their predictions came true. To most people I look, act, walk, and talk like a normal 17 year old. This is because I am. Throughout 13 years of physical therapy, 100s of doctor appointments, and 2 life changing surgeries, I overcame the impossible odds of some of the more debilitating results of  Cerebral Palsy……

But my life isn’t all sunshine and roses. I think this is because I love sports, they are like my drug. I can’t live without them. I love to compete. Sadly, I will never be the athlete I dreamed of, much less the athletes that are sprinkled throughout my family. As a little kid I looked up to my dad who played college lacrosse at national powerhouses Syracuse University and Cornell University. Along with my father, my uncles, cousins, and even my brother (who is only 13 months older than me) have enjoyed successful college athletic careers.

A lot to live up to right? As a kid my parents couldn’t tear me away from sports, no matter how much my body took a beating, no matter how much they saw me struggle. I can now admit that I was never the most talented kid by any stretch of the imagination. But the one thing I did accomplish was being the hardest worker on the court or field each game.

By the time I got to high school the game had changed. Everyone got taller while my growth was stunted. I may have been stronger in the upper body but my lower body was lacking to say the least. I couldn’t keep up, the emotional and physical pain was too much and I knew the fall of my sophomore year that I had to hang up my dreams of playing high school varsity sports. Naturally, it was difficult for me to handle. I worked day in and day out for hours on end to maybe have an opportunity to step on the basketball court or gridiron. I was given the chance to be a team manager for the basketball and football teams. This was far from what I wanted, but like I said, sports is the drug I can’t live without. I hated the fact I couldn’t play, I hated giving water to my friends, and most of all, I hated going to every practice which I would do anything to participate in.  It took me three very emotional seasons of basketball and one season of football to really realize the blessing God and my coaches have given me.

I now go about my job with grace. I try to set an example for my teammates. Although I can’t physically lead them on to the field, emotionally I do my best to inspire them to be great and let nothing hold them back. Being a manager has not affected my work ethic. I work just as hard at serving the team as I would playing with them. I know the true privilege that comes with playing a high school sport. I would do anything to wear a jersey and run out of that tunnel knowing I was getting ready to go to battle with my teammates…who by now have become like brothers to me. Despite all the obstacles, I will never stop encouraging my teammates and I will never let them quit because they can achieve greatness no matter how much it hurts me to stand on the sidelines.  I am blessed to share my last year of high school with them. The obstacles I have over come made my vision  clear…..

My goal going into my senior year and for the rest of my life is to inspire people and help others. I find it extremely important to help all of those kids with CP especially those who face greater challeges than I. I know that although I can’t play high school, college, or pro sports like I dreamed of, I am thankful and grateful. I have out worked my disability and I now feel the need to help others. Not only have I been blessed with great doctors from Dr. Nuzzo in New Jersey, every doctor at Cincinnati Children’s Hospital Medical Center, and  every physical therapist, trainer, or coach that I have helped me reach my potential, but I have also been blessed with 3 great heroes: Jason McElwain the autistic basketball manger who scored 20 points in three minutes, Anthony Robles the one legged NCAA Wrestling National Champion, and Eric LeGrand the Rutgers football player who was paralyzed in his season opener and now spends everyday trying to walk. These 3 people have inspired me to push myself to the limit to accomplish all my goals in every aspect of my life.

I want to be that role model, that hero for the hundreds of children  with CP I have shared a waiting room and who may face far greater challenges  than I. For those millions of kids and families who feel hopeless and no one to look up too because of CP, I am now in the process of starting the Sam Becker Foundation For Cerebral Palsy. All the proceeds will go to the Cerebral Palsy unit at Cincinnati Children’s Hospital Medical Center and the United Cerebral Palsy (stay tuned and more to come). Knowing that I have been blessed to be in the situation I am, I feel called to help and inspire people throughout the world. I have finally learned that my CP has only enhanced the possibilities I have in front of me, not limited them.

I plan on pursuing a manager position on a Division I college program for either basketball or football. Before I get too far ahead of myself, I am focused on helping the McNicholas  Rockets football team bring back their first State Championship to Cincinnati. We may have our doubters, but the one hope I have been  taught is that not matter how great the odds, nothing is impossible with God, hard work, and heart.

I look forward to writing to all of you regularly throughout this season. If you have any questions/comments about my journey, future plans, or anything else please email me at: samxbecker10@aol.com

God bless,
Sam Becker

Friday, August 3, 2012

LETTER FROM URBAN MEYER


Coaches,

Please take a moment to read this letter from Urban Meyer. I know it will inspire you to continue doing what you are doing building up our young people.

Virtue=Strength,
Lou Judd
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Dear Coach,

The challenges that all of us face in living today are daunting and energy draining.  To many young people just making every day decisions are mind blowing and for many the wrong decisions are often the answer.   The social connections of today’s world present a difficult challenge and without a road map navigation is very difficult.

My adult life has been a complex juggling between pursuing my professional growth and my family.  I have made numerous moves around the country to further my professional goals.  Every move has been difficult but it has been very difficult for my family.  Shelley and I were married in Ohio; my daughters were born in Colorado, my son in Indiana.  My parents lived in Ohio and I was making career moves every three to four years.  My daughter Nicki made 4 moves in 5 years and experienced some issues along the way. She was making some decisions and choosing to be around kids that would have had a negative impact on her future.

Then something magical happened. We moved to Gainesville, Florida and she's in 7th grade and we're starting to make the decisions where she is going to go to school and obviously I'm the second boss in that household. My wife says, "There's this high school volleyball coach named Jeff Reavis down in Gainesville. He has some collegiate experience, he was a great player, he's a great coach, he's really tough on kids and I want her to play for him."

It was Buchholz High School, a school of 2,800 kids, and I wasn't a big fan of that. I've recruited a lot of places, and a lot of times a school with 2,800 kids  is huge and not really what I wanted for my kid. I wanted my daughter to go to some private school with 10 kids so we knew what was going on in her life.

Well I lost that battle and it was the greatest decision we ever made. The same little girl who was starting to get difficult started to grow up. Well, who knows what I would have been dealing with today if this high school coach didn't enter her life.

So all these years of coaching and mentoring and getting involved in kids' lives finally came full circle for me. All of a sudden my daughter, mine, not yours, mine ... was going through some stuff and we get the perfect situation. We put her in this high school and this volleyball program and she's up at 6 AM with a passion for living.

And this coach is inside out, upside down on her. If she misses something, she's going to wish she hadn't and all of a sudden, overnight, I see this same kid being very respectful. She's getting up early and I'm driving her to these early workouts. I would sneak in and watch and I'm watching this coach and the way he's pushing these kids and the way he is treating these kids the same way, exactly the same way I coach.

Steadily, I see this little girl having a sense of team, of selflessness, of respect and I wish I could stand in front of you and say I taught her that ... I tried, I tried but sometimes they don't look at coach the same way they look at Dad. I'm just that coach. I'm that guy that moved them to all these different places ...

And because of that, my daughter just made Academic All-ACC at Georgia Tech; she's a 3.85 student; she's a very virtuous girl; she's one of the most respectful persons I've ever been around and by the way she's still my best friend.

Why?

Because this coach had a very positive impact on my little girl as she grew. Once again, with all due respect, not your little girl, my little girl and that's when things really started to change.

So that really started a change in me. I started to take a different approach to recruiting now and what we try to do for our players. I'm a living testimony of someone whose child was impacted by a coach who changed her life and I am forever grateful to this coach. If you've ever been through something like that, it's not a little overwhelming, it's very overwhelming.

Why am I sharing all of this with you?

Because I believe as coaches we can all grow stronger in how we coach and mentor the young people under our care and tutelage. There is an organization called SportsLeader that is helping coaches across the country by using a very practical coaches manual, in-person staff training, and an inspirational web site that can help impact the lives of your players more intentionally through a virtue program that can be used by public and private schools alike.

SportsLeader is an organization that encompasses the leadership components that are applicable to coaches at all levels.  I spent part of last year working with my son’s youth football team.  Coaches at every level of athletics have the opportunity to make a difference in people’s lives by living and teaching leadership, character and integrity.  As coaches give of themselves by actions and words, their sharing of their virtues becomes evident as selfishness goes out the window.  Young people can learn that being humble and living life the right way can be much more satisfying than being in the news for doing the wrong thing.

A life-long friend of mine, Dean Hood, Head Football Coach at Eastern Kentucky University has developed a great relationship with these men over the past few years now, does a Senior Virtue Camp weekend with them and his recommendation was enough for me to want to meet with them and work with them.

Please take some time to visit their web site at www.sportsleader.org

A representative from SportsLeader will contact you to see if you would like to get involved.

I wish all Teachers and Coaches the strength, courage and wisdom to accept the position of Leadership and to positively impact the future of the young men and women we work with. They need you!

Sincerely,
Urban Meyer

* These are my personal views and are not an endorsement of SportsLeader by The Ohio State University

Friday, July 27, 2012

DO YOU HAVE YOUR MENTORING GROUPS?


I was blessed to be a part of the Cincinnati Archbishop McNicholas High school football practice yesterday. They have their mentoring groups all set up and they are getting it all started next week.

As I was making my rounds I had two amazing conversations with young men that really confirmed for me the power of mentoring.

Mind you, these young men had never seen me before and did not know me from Adam. So if they open up to me this quickly, imagine how much good their coaches can and will do ...

The first young man approaches me, Sam, and we get to talking. Sam is the team manager and has cerebral palsy (CP).

He is one of the most inspiring young men I have had the honor to speak with.

Sam taught me more than I could ever hope to share with him. There was a fire in his eyes, a desire to help, a need to be a part of the team, a passion to learn about virtue and the program.

He spoke of his CP as a blessing, as an opportunity to help others. He spoke about his hope to create an organization to inspire greater awareness for CP but most of all he wants to talk with kids who have CP and give them hope, give them a smile.

McNicholas HS is truly blessed to have Sam on their team. Sam struggles to walk at times but there he is walking around the field brining water, bringing cold towels ... all with a smile.

I was moved.

How often are we moping around because it's too hot, or too cold, or too this ...

The lesson in all this - that if we didn't take the time to listen to Sam, we might miss all this.

There are so many players who get overlooked on our teams. And maybe WE are the ones missing out the most. Maybe WE are the ones who would benefit the most by speaking with them. Maybe THEY have more to teach us - than us them.

After my conversation with Sam, I commented on the "Spider-Man" like hands of a particular player as he made a pretty cool one-handed catch. This was Pat, the team kicker-punter.

Pat is a great student and is striving for an academic scholarship. Another inspiring young man in his right.

The team manager and the kicker ... two players that might not be on the top of anyone's list.

Let's change that. Let's make sure every player gets mentored every week this season.

You will NOT regret it!

Thursday, July 26, 2012

VICTORY AT NORTH AMERICA'S LARGEST TOURNAMENT


SportsLeader would like to congratulate the Regina Saskatchewan Unidad 98's under-14 boys soccer team. Last week they won their division at the prestigious international competition called The USA Cup.

For more info on the tournament you can visit http://www.usacup.org/

The USA Cup is the largest soccer tournament in North America annually attracting close to 1,000 teams and 14,000 athletes from 20 states and 17 countries.

We are really proud of them because they are SportsLeader's first soccer team from Canada.

Now they are also the first Saskatchewan boys team to win a title at the U.S.A. Cup tournament in Minneapolis.

Trevor Novak is one of the Assistant Coaches on the team. He has done an amazing job blending in virtue, mentoring, quotes on their Facebook page and much more. The hard work has definitely paid off.

The boys looked on Coach Novak as much the prophet at the beginning of the tournament. Leading up to the event they focused on the virtue of Determination. He remembered telling the boys that they would be facing new teams, new refs, new fields ... things would go wrong, disappointments would abound ... but that they needed to stay strong, to stay determined.

As it turns out, the team lost their first 3 games of the tournament. They dominated all 3 games in every possible area. But their shots just did not seem to be going in. Almost like there was a garage door covering the goal.

They continuously spoke about the virtue and the stories they had been studying all season as they met in the hotel ... the boys remained determined and confident.

They got one last chance and they made the most of it.

Trevor's son Mitchell, one of the team's leading scorers, was asked to move back to defense. Much to his credit he embraced this new challenge putting the team above himself and it sparked the team's comeback.

They made it to the final and won convincingly 5-1 knocking off a previously undefeated team.

The team could have easily packed it in after losing 3 straight games.

Their virtue shined through and now they have a memory that is priceless.

Virtue truly does equal STRENGTH!


Tuesday, July 24, 2012

PENN STATE SCANDAL AND OUR REACTIONARY CULTURE


The great majority of us have heard about the Penn State - Jerry Sandusky scandal.

We first and foremost extend our sympathies and concern for the victims and their families. No words, punishments or money can repair what has been done.

But what we can do moving forward is to truly take a look at the culture that we have developed over the past few decades. A culture where sports and winning at all costs have simply taken over our common sense. Sports have become an end in itself. Winning is basically a deity.

This many people recognize.

But what continues to go hidden in many hearts is the fact that we are not only a Sports & Win At All Costs Culture but that we are also a Reactionary culture.

That unless a judge, jury, NCAA president or the like call a national press conference and point the finger at us to such a degree that we are forced to open our wallets ... so many of us will do nothing to change.

Unless we are fined or arrested ... all is good, all is calm, all is quiet.

But when the fines and the arrests arrive - then the national or local outrage explodes and then ... only then does something happen to foster change.

Why?

Why can't we be more pro-active about the way we build our culture? Why not BUILD instead of just repairing the damage after the fact? Why not go out of our way to teach, to mentor ... and yes spend time, money and energy doing it first instead of spending the time, money and energy to clean up the mess afterwards?

What are we so afraid of?

What the NCAA president speaks about below needs to happen at every University in the United States of America, most likely the world. Not just Penn State!

Mark Emmert, NCAA President's words are below. Two paragraphs that struck me the most are these:

"Our goal is not to be just punitive but to make sure the university establishes an athletic culture and daily mindset in which football will never again be placed ahead of educating, nurturing and protecting young people. More than 100 years ago, the NCAA was created to assure that sports are fully integrated into our colleges and universities, and that the athletic programs wholly embrace the values of higher education. "

"For the next several years now, Penn State can focus on the work of rebuilding its athletic culture not worrying about whether or not it's going to a bowl game. With the sanctions imposed today and with the new leadership, the university, we hope, indeed we intend to ensure that that will be the case. In closing, let me say that this case involves tragic and tragically unnecessary circumstances. One of the grave dangers stemming from our love of sports is that the sports themselves can become too big to fail, indeed, too big to even challenge. The result can be an erosion of academic values that are replaced by the value of hero worship and winning at all costs."

Let's be a part of pro-active change and not just the reactionary culture.

And if money is your core issue - Pro-Active Leaders spend less than Reactionary Janitors. MUCH LESS!

Friday, July 20, 2012

2,225


Some numbers take a bit to sink in.

2,225

2,225: Inmates in prison serving life without parole for crimes committed as minors

73 of them committed the crime at 13 or 14 years of age

That is 44.5 per state

Imagine - 44 young people serving life without parole from your state.

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Our young people desperately need TRANSFORMATIONAL coaches.

What if these 2,225 had a coach who mentored them intentionally and specifically to be a more virtuous young man or young woman?

Thank you for coaching! Thank you for giving your life, time, energy and talent to such a needed and noble endeavor.

We need you to continue, to strive harder, to strive together.


Tuesday, July 17, 2012

THE EPIDEMIC OF WASTE


$68 million dollars?
Climate controlled lockers?
Over 400 possible football uniform combinations?

Further proof that it is never enough.

Funny how with all this money being spent on lavish athletic complexes it does not seem to be building up more virtuous men and women.

Coaches, I encourage you not to fall into this trap. Spend your time and money on things that last, that raise the maturity level of your athletes.

Virtue will help change our society. A climate controlled locker? Probably not.

Many virtues come to mind that are the opposite of all this: Moderation, Maturity, Other-Centered, Wisdom ...
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http://content.usatoday.com/communities/campusrivalry/post/2012/07/ducks...

Ducks to build $68 million football operations center

By Erin Egan, USA TODAY

Chip Kelly won't be hanging his head after a loss.

No, instead he'll be soaking in his brand new hot tub next to his office while watching replays of the game on his waterproofed video center.

The University of Oregon football program is constructing a lavish $68 million operations center set to open fall 2013, and head coach Kelly's hot tub viewing center is just the cherry on top.

Blueprints submitted to the city of Eugene show 124 climate controlled lockers for the football players, each outfitted with an iPod dock and a charging station. Designed by Nike's Phil Knight, the facility will also include: two movie theaters, a Duck football museum, a war room akin to the White House's, a 2,285-square-foot players lounge, and a 25,000-square-foot weight room.

From The Register-Guard:

The new football building will be top-of-the-line "pro or college, in the U.S.," according to the UO's official athletics website. The addition will push UO facilities to "outrageously impressive," according to ESPN's ranking of college facilities.

Knight has reserved the rights to name the new football complex, but he has not yet revealed what it will be.

Former University of Arizona president and expert on college sports spending Peter Likins told The Register-Guard that the new center is likely to spark a round of one-up construction in the Pac-12.

The new complex will also feature two black-metal-and-glass buildings, one to serve as a teaching box and the other an office bar, totaling 130,000 square feet. Both will be mounted on top of the weight lifting building. The office block will be connected to the teaching block -- which will have nine classrooms each dedicated to a single position -- with a double-decker sky bridge.

Knight recruited Zimmer Gunsul Frasca Architects to complete the project -- the same company that designed the Jaqua Academic Center for Student Athletes, the UO Athletics Department medical center and the Courtside student housing complex near the campus.

Monday, July 16, 2012

ONE OF OUR NEWEST MEMBERS

We are experiencing a lot of growth this summer at SportsLeader. It has been very inspiring to see new schools, teams and coaches join the movement to be more intentional and specific about teaching virtue.

One of the new teams to join is the Cincinnati Mason High School and Middle School football teams.

Chris Willertz led a training last week and it was awesome that all of the coaches participated.

So many young men will be able to be mentored.

Our world needs this!


Friday, July 6, 2012

SPORTSLEADER WITH URBAN MEYER AND DEAN HOOD



SportsLeader was blessed to be a part of a very special first annual camp and coaches clinic with Urban Meyer, Head Football Coach at Ohio State, and Dean Hood, Head Football Coach at Eastern Kentucky, on July 5th.
Urban and Dean grew up together in Northeastern Ohio and they wanted to give back to their community.
 
It was hosted by the Spire Institute. An amazingly impressive 750,000 square foot facility complete with indoor facilities for football, basketball, swimming, volleyball ... and pretty much every other sport imaginable.
 
19 area football coaches generously volunteered their time to teach the close to 225 1st-8th graders that signed up filling the allotted amount for this first year in 16 hours.
 
But this was different from your ordinary football camp. It was very intentional and very obvious that it WAS ABOUT Virtue.
 
There were two Virtue Talks about Self-Control and Charity. After each skill, the coaches would break the huddle with the kids shouting  "Self-Control" or "Charity". Chris Willertz spoke to the 6-8th graders while I took the 1st-5th graders and then we switched for the next talk.
 
You could tell the kids wanted more than just football.
 
While I was on the lunch line one of the coaches asked me where I was from, what we did, etc. At one point he asks, "Do you really think it was worth it to drive over 5 hours just to talk to some kids about virtue?" Whatever I said doesn't really match up with the below ...
 
“I learned charity, to give your life to other people,” 9-year-old Simon Taraska said.
 
Imagine if 225 young men really took that one lesson to heart. That would forever change the entire state of Ohio. So yes, it was more than worth it.
 
After the camp, Urban Meyer, Dean Hood and SportsLeader Founder Paul Passafiume spoke to the coaches. Paul's message of unleashing the power of manhood, training the will like a muscle and the need to help young people move from self-absorption to self-mastery really resonated with them.
 
There was a press conference during the camp and Coach Meyer said something that seemed to really catch everyone's attention:
 
"Talent will get you seven or eight wins," Meyer said. "Discipline will get you eight or nine. Then if you get leadership, that's when magic starts happening and rings get put on fingers. Really cool things happen."
 
What are we doing to intentionally, specifically, daily teach leadership to our young people?
 
Chances are that if you are not mentoring one-on-one - then you probably aren't getting it done.

Wednesday, June 13, 2012

LEARNING A LESSON FROM APPLE


At the risk of sounding like an advertisement for Apple and their new laptop, I'd like to share a few thoughts on what I learned from watching a simple "new product video."

One phrase that we hear in the coaching world all too often is that "we do that already" or "we do a pretty good job of that already".
 
This comes from coaches of all sports, at all levels ... and I'm sure it is not just coaches.
 
Author and speaker Matthew Kelly wrote that Fortune 500 companies have 2 things in common that they all do well:
 
1. Constant search for best practices
2. Continuous improvement
 
In other words Fortune 500 companies are that precisely because they DO NOT say "we do that already". They rather keep asking, "How can we do it better?"
 
As coaches maybe we need to adopt this perspective more aggressively - "How can we do this better?" - With regard to every aspect but especially virtue and building our players into great men and women.
 
Go to the link below and click on the watch video of the macbook pro ...
 
 
Listen to the words they use ... And this from the best tech company in the world.
 
 
Create something new
 
willing to change - open up a whole new world
 
improve
 
focus on features that matter most
 
 
rigorously questioned the ways in which we've designed portable products in the past
 
... completely changing our approach to the design of the display
 
 
The above 2 phrases are amazing because Apple already was unquestionably, undeniably the best computer company as far as design. If a $100 billion tech company that already makes the best designed laptops on the planet can rigorously question ... completely change the approach ...
 
Should we saying, "we do that already"?
 
Apple Inc., formerly Apple Computer, Inc., is a multinational corporation that creates consumer electronics, computer software, and commercial servers. Apple's core product lines are the iPad, iPhone,iPod music player, and Macintosh computer line-up. 
 
Founders Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak effectively created Apple Computer on April 1, 1976, with the release of the Apple I, and incorporated the company on January 3, 1977, in Cupertino, California. For more than two decades, Apple Computer was predominantly a manufacturer of personal computers, including the Apple II, Macintosh, and Power Mac lines, but it faced rocky sales and low market share during the 1990s. 
 
With the introduction of the successful iPod music player in 2001, Apple established itself as a leader in the consumer electronics industry, dropping "Computer" from its name. 
 
As of 2011, Apple is the largest technology firm in the world, with annual revenues of more than $100 billion.

Monday, June 4, 2012

A WEST POINT CADET REFLECTS BACK


Coach Ron Adams of Wyandotte (MI) Roosevelt High School shared this email he just received from a former player who is now serving our country at West Point. Ron and his staff do an amazing job of integrating virtue and mentoring into everything they do and this note shows it.

"Season of Life" and "The Last Lecture" are two books that he had his players read. Some coaches might say, "My kids would never read it so why bother?" ... Well this kid did and look at the impact ...
 
Lets always remember the most important things ...
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Coach,

I know that I have mentioned it to you before when talking in the fall when I came back for the conference when you gave me the great gift of being able to talk to the team but lately I have been able to do a lot of thinking and I just wanted to let you know some things.

I guess it is because of the profession I am in now, watching the seniors graduate and become new 2LT in the Army and watching them get their bars pinned on made me stand back and realize a few things. A couple of weeks ago while we were at breakfast they announced that a member of the Class of 2011 had been killed in combat and it just hits everything so home that now in 3 short years things will be so different. I know this is always what I have wanted to do and I do not regret it all.

I have been able to re-read both "Season of Life" and "The Last Lecture" and now with being older and seeing a lot more I see so many of the lessons that you have taught me and the team every year and why you did. You and all the coaches taught me so much in never giving up, being humble, giving back, and striving to be the best we can be in the classroom.

I talk to people all the time about the Bear Olympics and how we always went and did community service projects, reading to the little kids, and than the thing that shocks so many people is your commitment to academics, with watching our grades, attendance, and tardiness. These aspects of personal accountability have played a critical part for me here at West Point.

The way that you and the other coaches not only taught us our football skills ... you were without us maybe realizing it ... teaching us life lessons. We learned that the fundamentals were critical to everything else because if we did not understand those than the bigger and harder aspects would not be able to fall into place. The idea of tasks we do not think we can accomplish, those "Brick Walls" we always had to fight through, you taught us to never accept defeat and give our absolute best because in the end that is all anyone can ever ask of.

You are so very family related, and taught us to love our family and give back to them for all that they have given us, to loving each other like brothers, and you have sure been like another father to me and one of the biggest mentors in my life. You always supported me when I had all those hoops to jump through for the medical test, to helping me with recommendations, to seeing how I have been doing, and most of all always believing in me even when so many people told me I would never get in here or be able to stay.

I don't think there are words to describe how much you have impacted my life and the lives of so many others as well. As I grow older, and sometimes thrust to being older because of the profession I have chosen, I have been able to see truly all that you and all the other coaches have done. Thank you so very much, I will never forget these lessons that you have taught me and I will continue to build on them each and every day.
 
 
 
Very Respectfully,

Mitch Kittle
USMA Class of 2015
"For Those We Lead"
Regimental Cadet In Charge, Class of 2015 Class Committees
Army Mens Varsity Crew
UNCLASSIFIED

Friday, June 1, 2012

SEALS INSPIRE WOLVERINES WITH LEADERSHIP TRAINING


We've recommended to teams many times the idea of getting away and doing a virtue camp, really focusing on the things that matter - giving the most important things their due time.

Here is an example from a D1 football team that gave it its importance.

Let's do the same. If you need help or some ideas please contact us.

SEALs inspire Michigan seniors
Originally Published: May 31, 2012
By Mark Schlabach | ESPN.com
NEWPORT BEACH, Calif. -- The senior class from Michigan's football team gathered in a hotel ballroom on the second day of their senior leadership trip to California.

Greg Harden, an associate athletics director and director of athletic counseling, asked each of the team's 22 seniors a simple question.

"Are you a better leader today than you were a year ago?" Harden asked.

About halfway through the players' answers, Wolverines quarterback Denard Robinson offered a surprising response.

"I feel like I haven't grown," Robinson said. "For me to be the quarterback at the University of Michigan, I feel like I have to grow up a lot and be a lot more accountable."

Robinson's honest self-evaluation was just the kind of answer Michigan coach Brady Hoke wanted to hear.

Before Hoke's final season as Ball State's coach in 2008, he named his team's senior captains. One of those players, center Dan Gerberry, walked into Hoke's office the next day.

"What's a leader?" Gerberry asked. "I don't know how to be a leader."

Hoke instituted a senior leadership program for his players, in which he wanted to not only help them become better football players, but also better students and men.

"You could just see the growth of our team and seniors," Hoke said.


As Hoke prepares for his second season at Michigan, the leadership program has expanded to include a three-day trip to California, where last week the Wolverines attended daily leadership classes, took a tour of the Rose Bowl and organized and conducted a youth camp in Pasadena, Calif. The week culminated with nearly four hours of grueling physical training with Navy SEALs at the Naval Special Warfare Center at Naval Amphibious Base Coronado in Coronado, Calif.

"To watch the kids grow and see how they treat their teammates and influence their teammates is fun to watch," Hoke said. "If they run the locker room, we're going to be OK. If I have to run the locker room, we're going to be in trouble."

Over three days last week, Hoke, Harden and Michigan strength and conditioning coach Aaron Wellman were looking for more than a few good men. They were searching for the senior leaders who would guide Team 133 -- the 133rd incarnation of Michigan football -- into the 2012 season.

Wednesday, 3:30 p.m. PT, Newport Beach
Michigan's seniors had barely been on the ground for four hours before they were corralled into a ballroom at the Newport Beach Marriott for their first leadership meeting. The Wolverines left Ann Arbor, Mich., for Detroit's Metro Airport around 5:15 a.m. CT Wednesday, and then flew through Minneapolis before arriving at John Wayne Airport in Santa Ana, Calif., around 11:20 a.m. PT.

Michigan statement
Michigan football officials told ESPN.com that Big Ten Conference compliance officials cleared their football team's recent senior trip to California because it involved leadership and life skills, which is permissible under NCAA rules.

The Wolverines paid for the trip through a special fund in the athletics department's operating budget.

"The Senior Leadership Trip was developed to teach our senior football student-athletes about leadership, career development and life skills, and the opportunity was made possible through a special athletics department fund designed to provide opportunities such as this life skills training to student-athletes," Dave Ablauf, Michigan's associate athletic director of media relations said in a statement emailed to ESPN.com. "Our compliance office reviewed the details of the trip with the Big Ten Conference, who concurred with our assessment that it was permissible by NCAA rules."

After lunch, Wellman was eager to lay out the week's plans.

"A lot of things are critical, but one thing to remember is that this weekend is Memorial Day," Wellman told the players. "We're not comparing what we do to what the Navy SEALs do. When they lose, someone dies. When we lose, we come in on Sunday and watch film. We're not saying to anyone that we're like the Navy SEALs. Showing respect to them is going out there and working your butts off and doing what they ask you to do."

Wellman, who also worked for Hoke at Ball State and San Diego State, also offered the players the week's thesis.

"Take time the next three days to reflect about where you are as a football player, but more importantly, where you are as a man," Wellman said. "How do you want to be remembered as the 133rd football team? If you haven't taken the steps necessary to become a leader, you're not out of time -- but time is running short."

After spending several minutes discussing the next day's youth camp, Harden offered the first leadership lesson of the trip, asking each player if he was a better leader now than he was as an underclassman. Michigan's senior class is a combination of returning starters, backups and walk-on players. Robinson, who threw for 2,173 yards, ran for 1,176 and accounted for 36 touchdowns while leading the Wolverines to an 11-2 record in 2011, is easily the team's most recognizable player.

But it didn't take long for other vocal leaders to emerge, like starting receiver Roy Roundtree, linebacker Kenny Demens, strong safety Jordan Kovacs and defensive tackle Will Campbell.

During the meeting, Roundtree was critical of a recent 7-on-7 voluntary workout. He criticized the defense for not putting forth much effort.

"We didn't get better as a team," Roundtree said. "We didn't get better on offense because you didn't get better on defense. It was like running routes against air."

Campbell was just as critical of the defensive linemen's poor showing in recent conditioning runs. Michigan's defense lost three starting defensive linemen, which is a big concern heading into its Sept. 1 opener against defending BCS national champion Alabama at Dallas Cowboys Stadium in Arlington, Texas. The Crimson Tide is expected to have one of the country's best offensive lines.

"That's the position where we lost three starters," Campbell said. "The biggest part of Alabama is its offensive line."

"We want the team to be amazing," defensive end Craig Roh said. "We just need to map out a few things."

During the meeting, the Wolverines adopted their motto for 2012: "We Want It All."

"If you ask 119 other teams, their senior classes would say the same thing," Wellman said. "What makes you different? If you want it all, you can't remain who you are right now and become the men you want to be."

Shortly before the Wolverines filed out of the ballroom, Harden offered them a few more words of advice.

"We're talking about transforming a culture," Harden said. "You can't try it once and if it fails not try it again. You're at a place that's starving for leadership. Some of you were here under the former regime, which seemed to be a little more self-oriented. You're striving to become a team."


Wednesday, 6 p.m. PT, Newport Beach
After dinner, the Wolverines were back in the hotel ballroom, where Captain Duncan A. Smith and Special Warfare Operator First Class Eli Crane of the Navy SEALs gave them an orientation of what they would face on the beach at Coronado on Friday.

"I'm someone who is familiar with the pressure of being a part of an organization where there is an awful lot expected," Smith said. "That's a mantle. That's a yoke you have around you right now, not just for your team but the teams that will play at Michigan in 20 and 30 years from now."

Hoke and Wellman became involved with the SEALs while they coached at San Diego State. Hoke's last group of Aztecs seniors went through a day of SEALs training in 2010. The SEALs' traditional trident -- a three-pronged spear, which is associated with the sea gods Nepture and Poseidon -- has become a part of Michigan's football culture. Last season, before the Wolverines defeated Nebraska 45-17 on Nov. 19, three SEALs traveled to Ann Arbor and presented the Wolverines with their tridents.

"We have a notion or sentiment in our organization where you earn your trident everyday," said Smith, whose nephew,Nathan Brink, is a junior defensive tackle for the Wolverines.

Hoke wants his players to adopt the same kind of work ethic.

"They're the most elite warriors we have and everything is about team, accountability and trust," Hoke said.

Crane, who is from Arizona and served three deployments to Iraq, admitted to the Wolverines that he's a Notre Dame fan.

"Unfortunately, my team is Notre Dame," Crane said. "You guys have hammered them over the years. I'll try not to take it out on you on Friday morning."

Then Crane scanned the room.

"Who doesn't think they can handle three hours of training?" he asked.

No one raised his hand.

"It's going to be us against you," Crane said. "Please have thick skin. You guys are going to get yelled at and you're going to be taken out of your comfort zone."

The SEALs left the room, leaving the Wolverines to watch the Hollywood film "Act of Valor," which included active Navy SEALs in its cast.

Thursday, 9 a.m. PT, Newport Beach
Before departing for a tour of the Rose Bowl and conducting a youth camp at a nearby park, the Wolverines went through another hour of leadership training in the hotel ballroom. Harden divided the players into four groups and charged them with creating new ways to unify their team.

"Come up with some plans and ideas you think you can sell to the larger group," Harden said. "What emerges three weeks from now? A month from now, how can you galvanize and unionize and create some unity in this community? This is a community. It's a brotherhood."

Almost to a man, the Wolverines came back with identical dilemmas: They didn't really know their teammates.

"The thing I hate about leadership is you wait too late," Demens said. "Just imagine if we'd cared about each other like this as freshmen, sophomores and juniors. We'd be a dog-ass team. We'd be relentless."


During the meeting, several players shared stories about their backgrounds. Roundtree told his fellow seniors about how he overcame a learning disability as a child and still struggles with his brother being imprisoned. Cornerback J.T. Floyd admitted he's sometimes too self-centered because he's so focused on playing in the NFL. Floyd has a young daughter, Jordin, and is worried about her future.

Some players shared their proudest achievements. Center Ricky Barnum graduated in April and has been accepted to graduate school. Roundtree is the first member of his family to graduate from college, and guard Patrick Omameh spends one day each week at C.S. Mott Children's Hospital in Ann Arbor, where he recently made a little girl smile for the first time in weeks.

Tight end Mike Kwiatkowski told his teammates he wants to become a pharmacist; receiver Steve Wilson wants to be a doctor; and walk-on quarterback Jack Kennedy wants to be a musician.

"You have to start talking to people about things that matter," Harden told them. "You've got X amount of months to decide what kind of man you're going to be when you leave this program. You need to be deliberate and intentional."

Kovacs said he learned a lot about his teammates.

"Everyone has a story and you really don't know everyone's story until you sit down and have some serious talks," Kovacs said. "I think until we know everyone's story we won't become a team."


Thursday, noon PT, Pasadena
The Wolverines traveled by bus to the Rose Bowl, where Kevin Ash, the Rose Bowl's chief administrative officer, greeted them. Ash said it was the first time he could recall a team touring the Rose Bowl during the offseason.

The Wolverines, who last played in the Rose Bowl on New Year's Day 2007, were given a tour of the locker room and the playing field. Most of the players used camera phones and iPods to take their pictures inside the stadium.

"It's unreal," Kovacs said. "Driving down to the Rose Bowl and winding through the mountains, it just sent chills through me. Hopefully, we'll be back here in six more months."

Added Robinson: "It's the granddaddy of them all. It's tradition. It's history. We needed to see tradition and history."

After leaving the Rose Bowl, Michigan's seniors organized and conducted a youth camp for more than 80 children from the Pasadena Youth Football Association at Robinson Park Field (named in honor of Jackie Robinson, who once lived nearby). The Wolverines split up by positions and sent the kids through a circuit of drills for more than an hour.

"You've got a chance to make an impact on these kids," Wellman told them. "They'll remember this for the rest of their lives. Don't think for a second they're not watching you and listening to what you're saying and saying to each other. Teach them football skills and have some fun."

Friday, 10 a.m. PT, Coronado
After breakfast, the Wolverines loaded a bus to make the 90-mile drive to the Naval Special Warfare Center at the Naval Amphibious Base, which is located outside San Diego. The breakfast and bus ride were noticeably quiet.

"They're nervous," Wellman said. "I knew they were nervous when they showed up at breakfast wearing headphones. It's just like game day."

When the bus reached the Naval Special Warfare Center, the Wolverines assembled into formation and jogged to a classroom. Crane and Rob Stella, the SEAL's chief special warfare operator, were waiting to meet them. The Wolverines stripped off their sweatpants and replaced them with camouflage pants.

"I'm going to tell you right off the bat -- we can't make you into a better player and we can't make you into a championship team," Stella said. "If you came here expecting us to have the magic pill, you're going to be disappointed. It's up to each and every individual to actually buy into it. The most important thing to remember about leadership is it's a privilege and it's a hard privilege. Your team is going to fail or succeed based on how you get them up."

Stella then told the Wolverines the only thing they really need to know about the next three hours of training. It's what he likes to call "Embrace the suck."

"It doesn't matter who can run the fastest, who can shoot the best or who can throw it the farthest," Stella said. "What it all comes down to is how do you perform when you're stressed and under pressure? We're going to take you places where you've never been before. Be prepared for that. You're going to get a snapshot of yourself today and your teammates are going to get a snapshot of you today."

Before sending the Wolverines out to the beach, Stella gave them a few final words of advice: "We might do some things today that you don't like. Talk yourself through it. Work as a team."

The Wolverines hit the beach around 10:30 a.m. PT, but they hardly were greeted by typical Southern California weather. It was around 58 degrees and the beach was covered with fog and misting rain. The SEALs call this time of year in San Diego "Grey May."

Michigan's SEALs workout started on a rope climb behind the beach. After the exercise was finished, Stella sent the players for a dip into the Pacific Ocean. A few players, including Campbell, had never been to the beach before. They wouldn't forget their first trip, not after Stella instructed them to cover their shivering bodies in sand from head to toe.

After completing a series of dips and pull-ups, the players had to bear crawl up a dune, with a teammate hanging on them from below. After moving to the SEALs' obstacle course, the players flipped tractor tires in a relay race. Team 133 was divided into four boat teams.

"Get your game face on and embrace the suck!" Stella shouted into a megaphone. "Make small sacrifices for your teammates, just like they're making for you."

Robinson's team, which also included Floyd and Roundtree, won one of the early tire relay races. But they made the mistake of celebrating in front of Stella.

"What did they do wrong?" Stella asked. "They celebrated. How many times have you seen a team celebrate before the game is over? They're out there jumping up and down and hollering and then it's about them. Football players are the worst about that. Be humble, people. If you act like that, you're going to put a target on your back and people are going to crush you! What is humility? It's the absence of arrogance. If you start winning games and acting like fools, I'm going to get on a plane and come out there and kick your butts. Be humble and act like a team."

Then Stella turned to Robinson's team.

"They celebrated and now they're going to pay," Stella said.

Instead of getting a reward -- a short rest period -- like other winning teams, Robinson's team was ordered to complete lunges and sprints. None of the Wolverines did any more celebrating.

Predictably, Robinson's team struggled on the next exercise, in which the players moved in unison while in a push-up position, with a player crawling under them through the sand. Communication and teamwork were more essential than strength and speed.

"If you guys are going for the slowest time, you're rocking it," Stella sarcastically told them.

Crane and Stella saved the best for last. For the last hour of their workout, the Wolverines carried 235-pound logs. Before they started, Stella gave them strict orders.

"These things are heavy as hell," he said. "As soon as you get lazy and don't carry your weight, your teammates are picking up your slack. Trust your teammates are going to carry their weight. It's all about teamwork. If you guys start throwing around my logs, you're going to get sand and grit all over them. Then I'm going to make you wash them. There's only one place to wash them -- in the Pacific Ocean."

Stella found more uses for the logs than WD-40. The Wolverines carried them on their chests, hauled them on their shoulders and pushed them with their legs. They even did sit-ups and push-ups while carrying them.

At one point, Roh has difficulty keeping up with his teammates while they pushed a log with their legs.

"Just go without me!" he shouted.

"No, get up here!" Campbell responded. "We're a team!"

Stella was watching them closely.

"It's the fourth quarter and your motivation is being sucked out," Stella said. "Your opponents are going to sense that and crush you! I don't hear any communication! Your motivation has dropped. Your teamwork has dropped. Your opponent is going to crush you!"

Mercifully, Stella gathered the Wolverines around him when the fun was finally over.

"You guys are starting to communicate, but a lot of it is negative," Stella said. "There was a lot of bickering back and forth. As leaders, you guys have got to be a united front and working toward the same goal. The reality is the team that learns to play like a team wins championships."


Friday, 7 p.m. PT, Newport Beach
After returning to their hotel, the Wolverines gathered in a ballroom for the final time. Wellman, who went through the SEALs workout with his players, wanted to put the experience into perspective.

"I think a lot of you guys got a lot of good things out of it," Wellman said. "Communication when you get tired is an issue. Some of us in here are soft and you know who you are. You guys have to hold each other accountable."

Robinson said the Wolverines needed to do a better job of communicating with each other.

"It's hard for people to believe when they're tired and fatigued," Robinson said. "We all have so many ideas and we all want to be leaders. But the thing that stood out to me is we have to have one goal and one plan for our team to get to the destination where we want to go."

Kovacs, a former walk-on who was second on the team with 75 tackles in 2011, told his teammates they'd learned something about themselves.

"My biggest concern is, how is this team going to respond to adversity?" Kovacs said. "There were times we did OK, but a lot of times we didn't respond very well. I guarantee you in every game we play, starting with Alabama, the other team is going to make plays. Are we going to respond?"

When the Wolverines boarded a plane for Detroit on Saturday morning, they had less than 100 days to figure it out.

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

SENIOR SENDOFF IN SANDUSKY

Ryan Wikel, head football coach at Sandusky St Mary's Central Catholic High School, had his first ever Senior Sendoff event last week.

He had 10 players, 9 coaches and 1 chaplain Father Jason in attendance.

They gathered at the South Shore Inn, played a game of kickball - players against coaches that went 9 innings plus a 2 out sudden death overtime where the coaches prevailed 7-6. They enjoyed some food and then they went inside for a chat.

Coach gave each of the 10 players a mentoring group, just like the coaches ... so this year all the football players will have a coach and a graduated Senior who will be helping them. Coach Wikel said, “I feel like it is important to keep the graduating seniors connected to our program.  Since this is year one of our virtue program, I wanted this group to be a part of it.”

He told them that he'd like each of them to text their mentoring group at least 5 or 6 times throughout the upcoming year to encourage the young men to be virtuous. For example on homecoming and prom nights ... send a text to your group to make good decisions, don't do anything you might regret. “I have a sheet of important dates that revolves around the school calendar.  Midterm dates and end of quarter are important for grades. School functions such as dances and opening night of football are other important dates.”

The great thing about this is that maybe because the new college Freshman is texting the high school players to make good decisions, that will help them stay on the straight and narrow as well because they are telling others to do it ...
He also gave them a sheet with all of the names and contact information of all the coaches and assured them that they are forever a part of the football family.

To close it out he gave each player a book that he signed - "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People".  “It is a good read and a small token for the graduating seniors.  They may not read it right away, but maybe they pick it up 10 years from now and it makes an impact.”

Since the event he has received numerous texts from his assistant coaches letting him know how much fun it was to simply play a game with the guys. Admittedly some of the guys were sore for a few days because some "new muscles were freshly discovered" but that it was worth it.

A new tradition has been started ... a lifelong memory created!

There's still time to get in this event if you have not done so already. You won't regret it. It is called Senior Sendoff and the objective is to gather your graduating Seniors one last time ... Here is a recent example.

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

A REALLY BITTER MOMENT. HOPEFULLY A WAKEUP CALL


I had a pretty tough phone conversation with an athlete who I got to know rather well during this past year. 

I got to know him well during a fall sport. His coaches did an amazing job mentoring and installing the virtue program and it was both fun and inspiring watching them grow and excel throughout the year.
 
This young man is an excellent student and also a Spring sport athlete.
 
His team made it to the State Championships in this spring sport and the night before the event the team wound up being disqualified because of four teammates who decided to smoke something illegal.
 
To say he was crushed is an understatement. He broke personal records, team records and also helped his team win many games including their conference championship.
 
Why? Why would these teammates do this? Why so close to what they had worked so hard for - for 4 years?
 
These young men were Seniors.
 
One is the presumed Valedictorian ... Valedictorian, College scholarship, State Championship game ... possibly all down the tubes for a quick smoke ...
 
All four kids one could easily qualify as "not needing mentoring" because they are good students, dedicated and driven, from good families ...
 
What came to mind is that there are so many coaches who will not buy into a virtue and mentoring program ... "We do that already."
 
But what can categorically be stated is that whether or not you do it, our young people need 100 times more of it.
 
Lets encourage one another on our staffs that we really NEED to give more to our young people. Let's make the sacrifice.

Friday, May 25, 2012

A NAVY SEAL'S WISE ADVICE TO GRADUATES

I would recommend forwarding this to all of your coaches and athletes. We all need to hear this type of encouragement more often.
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A Navy SEAL's Wise Advice to Graduates
By William J. Bennett, CNN Contributor

STORY HIGHLIGHTS
• Former Navy SEAL Eric Greitens was commencement speaker at Tufts
• William Bennett says Greitens' message was unusual and important
• He says Greitens stressed service to others rather than self-seeking pursuits
• Bennett: The message was to sacrifice, to serve one's country and to live magnanimously
Editor's note: William J. Bennett, a CNN contributor, is the author of "The Book of Man: Readings on the Path to Manhood." He was U.S. secretary of education from 1985 to 1988 and director of the Office of National Drug Control Policy under President George H.W. Bush.
(CNN) -- Each spring, I monitor the list of commencement speakers at our nation's leading colleges and universities. Who is chosen, and who is not, tells us a lot about academia's perception of the most important voices in America.

Two of this year's most popular speakers were CNN's Fareed Zakaria, who spoke at both Harvard University and Duke University, and EPA Administrator Lisa Jackson, who spoke at both Tulane University and the University of Washington. Perhaps one of the most original choices, and the one who certainly stood out from the rest, was U.S. Navy SEAL Eric Greitens, who addressed the 2012 graduating class of Tufts University Sunday.

It's not often that elite universities honor military service members with commencement addresses. Gen. Dwight Eisenhower once spoke to a graduating class at an Ivy League university and remarked, "Your business is to put me out of business." So I applaud Tufts University for inviting Greitens.

He is not a household name, but he should be. The 38-year-old Rhodes scholar and humanitarian worker turned U.S. Navy SEAL served multiple tours overseas fighting terrorist cells and received several military awards. Today, he is the CEO of the Mission Continues, a nonprofit foundation he created to help wounded and disabled veterans find ways to serve their communities at home.

To the graduates of Tufts, Greitens issued a unique challenge, one rarely heard at commencements today: to sacrifice, to serve one's country and to live magnanimously. He called students to think above and beyond their own dreams, their own desires, and to be strong. Aristotle called this megalopsychia, greatness of soul, and considered it one of the greatest moral virtues.
" 'What kind of service can I provide? What kind of positive difference can I make in the lives of others?' If you work every day to live an answer to that question, then you will be stronger," Greitens declared.

After dodging bullets, withstanding IED explosions and going days without sleep, Greitens realized the strength he needed to excel as a SEAL was found outside his own physical abilities. In his weakest moments, Greitens was able to find his greatest strength in service.

"The more I thought about myself, the weaker I became. The more I recognized that I was serving a purpose larger than myself, the stronger I became," he told the students at Tufts. He served his country and defended the weak against the rapacity of the wicked.

Fifty years ago, Greitens' remarks would have been the norm. But through the years, the focus of education, particularly higher education, has shifted from selflessness to self-obsession. Many commencement speakers today tell students to "Dream big" and "Do what you love." It may be feel-good career advice, but it's incomplete life advice. Philosopher Martin Buber wrote, "All education 'worthy' of the name is education of character." Greitens gave the Tufts student an eloquent firsthand example.

Greitens said it this way: "The best definition I have ever heard of a vocation is that it's the place where your great joy meets the world's great need. ... We need all of you to find your vocation. To develop your joys, your passions, and to match them to the world's great needs."

Not all men are meant to be Navy SEALs, or even serve in the military, but all men can serve. Henry Wadsworth Longfellow recognized, "The life of man consists not in seeing visions and in dreaming dreams but in active charity and in willing service."

We ask our students, what do you want to do when you grow up? Instead, we should ask them, whom or Whom, and what ideals do you want to serve when you grow up? That is a worthy thing to consider at graduation. Good for Greitens; good for Tufts.

Thursday, May 24, 2012

COACHING, MENTORING AND IDENTITY


One of the most powerful elements of being a coach is that the young person is choosing to be with you, choosing to learn from you.
In many instances, especially with boys and young men, they identify themselves with the sport they play. They see themselves as a football player, as a baseball player.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
This has good and bad in it.
 
We should identify with who we ARE not what we DO. 
 
The bad side of this can be seen by the many professional athletes who no longer see a purpose to their lives once they retire because they have identified themselves TOO MUCH with what they did. They never truly found out who they were.
 
The good side of it - from the the point of view of a coach-mentor is that you have a tremendous platform to impact the young people you coach, because they identify with you very easily and very quickly.
 
Many coaches I have spoken with though, feel unworthy or incapable of being this mentor because they feel like they do not have their life in order.
 
In short, "I'm not perfect so I can't be good mentor."
 
Well the exact opposite is true. We might think that "only the perfect" are good mentors but how many of your athletes are lining up to talk with "the so called perfect"? Not many, if any.
 
As a coaching staff, as a coaching community, let's remind and encourage one another to take this seriously and make a greater effort to really breathe purpose, direction and strength into the lives of our young people.
 
Let's help them focus on who they are and who they can become, not just on what they do.
 
The better job WE do with this - the better husbands, wives, fathers, mothers ... families we will have in the future.
 
We will be STRONGER!

Thursday, May 10, 2012

TRADITIONS THAT STRENGTHEN FAMILY


Building traditions within teams and schools is an integral part of what we try to do at SportsLeader. It is all a part of creating/strengthening a culture of virtue that inspires everyone to be a better person.
I was honored to be a part of two of those traditions over the past few weeks at Newport Central Catholic high school with Coach Denny Barnes and his softball team.
 
The traditions: Father-Daughter Jersey Night and Letter to Mom.
 
This is a very special group of families. The young ladies, their Dads and their Moms were all very inspiring. The level of of love, sincerity and genuine care by the Dads as they told their daughters how proud of them they were and that they loved them ... it was moving.
 
As the Dads would speak I would look at the girls faces ... the look in their eyes was priceless. You could tell that they really appreciated hearing those things from their Dad.
 
At the Letter to Mom Ceremony, each of the girls wrote a letter to their Mom and then read it to her in public. Coach would call up a Mother-Daughter duo, the Mom got to sit while the daughter read the letter. I was amazed at how much effort, detail and heart the girls put into this. The Moms were of course very grateful.
 
Before the ceremony with the Moms, I spoke with the girls and asked them what they thought about all these events and such. In short, they loved these so much that they want another one called Letter to Dad.
 
I can't encourage you enough to make these traditions a part of your team ...
 
Here below is a testimony from one of the Dads.
 
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Mr. Noll,

I would wish to thank you organizing such a wonderful event last night.  The father/daughter night for the girls softball team was simply the most amazing experience, other than the birth of my daughters, that I have ever had the privilege to be part of.  The outpouring of emotion from each and every father was the most incredible expression of love I have ever had the chance to witness.  From a personal standpoint, the opportunity to express the love, pride and admiration that I have for my daughter to others in a public forum was an amazing feeling for both of us.  While I know that my daughter can see, feel and experience the love I have for her, to be able to share that with others was an amazing feeling.

I also had the opportunity to speak with Mr. Judd and he expressed that this was a program that was going to be implemented throughout the school for all programs.  If there is ANYWAY I can be of assistance to promote this program please feel free to call on me.  I would be more than honored to explain to others the impact this had on myself and my daughter.

Again, thank you so very much for this program and thank you very much for giving my daughter the opportunity to be part of such a wonderful school as Newport Central Catholic.

Friday, May 4, 2012

EAGLE STRONG


I was blessed to be with an inspiring coaching staff last night at Madison Southern High School in Berea, KY. They are integrating the SportsLeader virtue program into all of their sports. Head football coach Jon Clark has been with us for over a year now and the impact that he and his staff have made on their athletes moved the Principal to want this school-wide.
Jon is an outstanding coach with a heart of gold. He is inspiring to say the very least.
 
When I arrived he was doing everything he could to get the new weight room finished, cleaned, platforms in place. You could see the fire in his eyes to help teach his boys to value new equipment and that this was all part of the process of creating an environment of virtue, of strength, of positive change.
 
At one point a group of players popped in to take a peek and it was rewarding to watch Coach Clark interact with these young men. You could tell that these young men loved their coach.
 
Coach shared an excellent story with me. Last year when he began adapting a virtue theme of the week, many of the players did not know what the words meant ... words like virtue, bold, determined ... they just weren't a part of their vocabulary.
 
Recently he called a team meeting and he asked his players to brainstorm and come up with the top 5 virtues that a Madison Southern High School football player should have. He watched and listened in amazement as his players argued about which virtues were the most important ... 
 
At the end of the evening as we were wrapping up Coach said something else that spoke volumes about what this is all about ... virtue and mentoring has above all made me a better person, made me a better coach. 
 
Virtue and mentoring CAN and WILL change our society. Keep plugging!
 
Maybe your kids did not "seem to listen" today ... maybe they don't "seem to be getting it".
 
Be Strong - they are. They will surprise you.
 

Thursday, May 3, 2012

ONE DAY TOO LATE

I heard a song recently that really inspired me. It is a bit on the heavy side but the lyrics are powerful. 
Combined with NFL Linebacker Junior Seau's passing ... the words ring even more urgent.
 
As coaches we have amazing opportunities every day around the young people we coach to make a lasting impact.
 
Let's make the most of it.

Song "One Day Too Late" by "Skillet" from album "Awake"

Lyrics:

Tick tock hear the clock countdown
Wish the minute hand could be rewound
So much to do and so much I need to say
Will tomorrow be too late

Feel the moment slip into the past
Like sand through an hourglass
In the madness I guess I just forget
To do all the things I said

Time passes by
Never thought I'd wind up
One step behind
Now I've made my mind up

Today I'm gonna try a little harder
Gonna make every minute last longer
Gonna learn to forgive and forget
'Cause we don't have long, gonna make the most of it

Today I'm gonna love my enemies
Reach out to somebody who needs me
Make a change, make the world a better place
'Cause tomorrow could be one day too late
One day too late
One day too late

Tick tock hear my life pass by
I can't erase and I can't rewind
Of all the things I regret the most I do...
Wish I'd spent more time with you

Here's my chance for a new beginning
I saved the best for a better ending
And in the end I'll make it up to you, you'll see
You'll get the very best of me

Your time is running out
You're never gonna get it back
Make the most of every moment
Stop saving the best for last

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

PLANNING FOR VIRTUE CAMP


A great way to unite your team over the summer is a Virtue Camp - an opportunity to get away, say for 24 hours, and focus on your team goals, team chemistry, and the real purpose of sports.

Ice-breaker games, swimming, physical challenges, dodgeball, bonfire, fishing, movie clips ... just some of the things we do at Camp River Ridge with teams in the mid-west who want to take their team to the next level.

If you live too far away, we can help you organize one closer to home.

If you are interested, just send us a note.

But - definitely look at your calendars and plan for one.